My Personal Experience With Closet Racism

Closet racism is something all of us come face to face with throughout our lives. But how do face and deal with it head on?

coming face-to-face with closet racism

Recently I learned something about someone I was close to, something that shook me to the core as I would have never thought this about this person.

Maybe I am just naive, maybe I just want to see the best in people and can’t bring myself to think that people can actually be so hateful.

But this was out and out racism and was directed at two of my closest friends.
That and the fact that I heard it from them first hand, so I know it’s true.
I am thinking how do you hide that you’re a racist? Eventually it comes out, eventually it bleeds though and shows you for who you truly are.

What I am shocked about is how you held it together in front of me for so long.
I say this because I have a gay best friend, my closest friends are Puerto Rican,  Native American, Jewish and my husband is black.

Yes, I have a melting pot of different colors, different religions, different ethnic backgrounds, different sexual orientations in my life and I love it. This is what brings the spice to my life, seeing, enjoying and being part of all of the differences, that people are.

Yet, we all know or maybe like me, don’t realize that there is always a closet racist among us. That there is always that one person who will still call you a racist slur, say something that makes you stop in your tracks and shake your head.

That person who hates anyone who is not like “they are” who secretly wishes that it could be a white only race. That smiles at your face but behind closed doors talks a different tune.

I can’t believe that today, in 2019 after we had a black president, we have gay marriages, we have come so far for equality for people who are different (Their words not mine). That we still have people like this, people with such closed minds, such hardened hearts, but this is a fact of life.

I refuse to be involved with someone who is like that. I live my life on love, love one another, love thy self, love for everyone. The bible talks about love 585 times.

Love is what is going to heal us as a world, as a nation, as a neighbourhood, but it starts with us.

So to my mixed up bunch of extremely different people, that I am blessed to share my life with, thank you…thank you for sharing your culture, your differences, your uniqueness, that something special, that makes you…you.

So today my friends, remember there is always a hater out there, there is always going to be a closet racist, there will always be someone who can’t or won’t accept differences, pray for them, send them love, keep doing you, you are magnificently made, own it and know there are so many more of us that don’t see colors, don’t see the differences, that we just see the heart.

“Be the change you want to see”

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